I’m always happy to see how many masochists come to a session after reading a lot of my blog posts in advance. Thank you, as always.
When they tell me that, I can’t help but smile, imagining that they’ve probably already pictured what today’s session with me might be like.
Some people seem to have the impression that I often engage in hard play.
But I’m curious—what do you personally use as the standard to decide what is hard and what is soft?
Many people say it depends on the intensity of physical pain or suffering.
But is that really all there is to it?
There are several things I value during a session.
One of them is leaving a strong, vivid sensation in the other person’s mind.
I’ll keep that expression deliberately vague, but if you’re a true pervert, you can probably imagine what I mean.
The balance of that sensation changes depending on the person.
After all, BD.SM is something that progresses through a mutual emotional response between two people.
If I can leave a deep mark in someone’s mind, that in itself becomes a form of domination that will not easily fade.
In various situations, those memories might resurface and stir your masochistic desires again.
I absolutely love sessions that create that kind of mental contact.
And if that is what you call hard, then yes—I suppose I do like hard play.
So I don’t think the discussion of “hard” or “soft” should be limited to the physical body of a masochist alone.
A session with such shallow substance would never satisfy me.
There is no absolute right or wrong in the world of BD.SM, but this is the way I see it.
What do you think?
I hope we can spend intense, meaningful time together through BD.SM, and build a relationship of trust that may grow into one of dominance and submission.
