All masochists have been bothered by the reality between reality and fantasy at least once haven't they? I have too. But I think masochists are more bothered than dominas for physical reasons. I have heard many masochists say "Just watching is OK. Doing it myself for real is too hard. Now there is a lot of BDSM media that you can enjoy hard play more while just watching.
I often find the common points between fantasy and reality and close the gap between them. I like this work. Fantasy changes to reality. Fantasy is fun, and I think it's important. There are a variety of ways to relate it to reality.
But I know firsthand experiences impress us deeply. So I'm happy when I can realize our fantasies while feeling each other's humanity.